How to Stay Positive When You're Out of Options

I will not allow fear to stop me from doing the work that I know I should do. Instead, I will live with my full energy, with my full heart, with my full courage, and in so doing, give all others permission to do the same. I will win at my life.
— Hill Harper

The last part of that quote made me stop and think: I will win at my life. I probably repeated it to myself several times before I saw the power in those 5 words. Winning, in this instance, can have so many different meanings. It means I can overcome, move past, look beyond or conquer whatever I'm going through. I heard this quote for the first time at a cancer advocacy meeting, where Hill Harper was the keynote speaker. This affirmation reminded me that there is always room for improvement. 

It's all about perspective when it comes to staying positive, and sometimes all it takes is a deep breath to get you focused on what's important. Sometimes it's a timeout from our daily lives. For me, there are 3 things I keep in mind when I'm trying to keep things into perspective:

1) Take a Pause

I've noticed that being slow to anger, and quick to understand the issue, has left me with more room for gratitude and creativity. I remind myself to think more strategically - If option A won't work, then how can I make it work? If I can't make it work, what's the next best solution? 

2) Refocus: Learn Something New

Sometimes there's nothing you can do. Unfortunately, we've all been there - the damage is done.  You can choose to refocus your attention on what you can do, and look to friends, family or coworkers to help you learn something new.  I would try to pick up a new hobby, take a different exercise class, or try a new recipe. Shifting your energy to something new and positive can help you from dwelling on the negative. 

3) Lead Your Life

You're in control of how you react to whatever life throws your way - so make decisions that align with your purpose. When you do this, you can continue to "win at your life". 

I think about the combination of these three things, and it seems like a lot of work. But you have to do the work in order to see results. This is with anything, but especially with your attitude.