Why Being Uncomfortable is OK

Did something life changing happen to you recently? Do you feel trapped or hopeless? Whatever it is, big or small, it has impacted you so much…you’re uncomfortable. It happens to all of us at some time or another. We feel the wind in our hair, the warmth of the experience and the bliss of the opportunity until it’s taken from us. It’s hard to be uncomfortable, and it’s one of the many things that separates people from being the best version of themselves.

Many of my greatest experiences have come after being uncomfortable, whether it was for a month or for a year. There are countless examples of this, but consider the angst of getting into college, securing your first job, buying your first home, deciding to marry someone or even losing someone. These experiences come with a ton of mixed emotions and feelings, but they usually can work in your favor – even when your favor could be perceived as negative (initially). I’ve thought about how I try to deal with being uncomfortable, or totally let down, and there are three things I always keep in mind:


I have grown into the person I am because of the setbacks life has given me. Even when situations challenged who I thought I was, I ultimately chose to remain calm and find the lesson in the fog. Sure, you might not want to see the lesson right away. You may need to get some things off your chest, maybe even get sidetracked; at the end of it all, try to push through. Keep moving, and desire the growth and change that’s been destined for you. 


Being open-minded and seeing what blessing or positive experience awaits you is key. You never know what or who has been waiting for your attention because you were so comfortable being engaged in something or someone else. There is opportunity in growth and growth in opportunity. Find those gems and hold onto them.


The hardest thing about being uncomfortable is that you don’t know how long it will last. Don’t panic - plan. During this time, find your strength (whatever that may look like). It won’t be easy, but if you keep searching, then you’re building and keeping your mind active. Yes, you will probably put yourself to the test and see how much you can take. My advice? Don’t do it alone. When you think your situation might be too much - ask for help. There’s strength in numbers and your support system is critical. It’s what will lift you up when you need it the most. This will be one of those times. 

At this point, you may be asking yourself – 'is being uncomfortable worth all of this?’ My answer is absolutely. Because if you’re not uncomfortable then you’re not growing. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable, so you can continue to build character and see beyond limitations. It all comes down to perspective and that’s one thing you can control.